Dating can often be an exciting, rewarding experience for both you and your dating partner. But dating relationships, like other relationships, are not immune to problems and complications. Dating problems can occur unexpectedly and at any stage in the dating relationship. Understanding some of the most common dating problems, and learning ways to address them caringly and effectively, can help you enjoy and grow with your dating partner.
Below, are the problems with dating today…
1. When You Have To Stop Yourself From Thinking About Your Ex.
“You know what, honestly Max wasn’t even that bad. I mean, he wasn’t smart or funny, and he didn’t get my jokes, and one time he kind of implied that he didn’t believe women should be allowed to have jobs, but he was a really good kisser. I should email him when I get home from this date that I’m hating.”
2. We Don’t Date Anymore
The average person who is single, has not been on one date in the last two years according to research. From my observations, not only is this true, but those who are dating are an exclusive set. I believe 80% of dating today is done by only 20% of the single population. The following thoughts represent some of not only dating’s biggest problems, but they double as reasons why we’re not dating anymore.
4. We Have a Low Value of Marriage
The most startling study I’ve seen about marriage was conducted by Pew Research Center and concluded that 67% of millennials today no longer see value in marriage. WOW! Imagine if that same question was asked of your parents or grandparents generation when they were twenty-somethings? I bet close to no one would have said they don’t see value in getting married. However, times have changed and today it’s clear the generation of prime marrying age carries the prevailing thought two people can just have babies together or two people can just live together, and there aren’t compelling reasons for a more formal procedure like marriage.
5. When You Convince Yourself He’s Not So Bad Because You’re Lonely.
This usually happens when you’ve already noticed that you don’t have any chemistry, but you felt the need to be polite and stay anyway, then the more he talked, you convinced yourself he was really nice and honestly that has to count for something?
Many dating problems can grow out of poor communication between you and your dating partner. In fact, the problems that develop in other areas, such as those resulting from different expectations and poor boundaries, can often be addressed through more proactive and effective communication. With communication, though, how you address a problem can be part of the problem. For example, you may have a question about your dating partner’s background. Knowing when and how to raise the question can affect whether or not the other person feels as if the question is caring or intrusive. Similarly, if you have a misunderstanding with your dating partner, how you address the problem, including the words you use and the tone of your voice, can affect whether or not she feels cared for and understood or accused and alienated. Learning the necessary skills for effective interpersonal communication can help to safeguard against this common dating problem, as well as strengthen the relationship as a whole.